When I told my mother about my father I was 14 years old. Her reaction was quick and biting. "If he did it, you must have wanted it little B......
She did not react as a mother...She reacted as a jealous woman. To this very day I am shocked.
I have thought about my mother many nights. She is dead now, but I have always had empathy for her. She was destined to go to business college, but my dad's sister introduced her to my dad while on leave from the army. They started communicating by mail..and grew close. Their's were a shotgun wedding. My grandmother and her sisters had invested their dreams in my mama. When she got pregnant I imagine they were sorely disappointed. My mother started having a kid every 2 years, until she had 11. My sister revealed that mama resented having her dream deferred, and resented 11 children. My daddy beat her often. Once when she was 6 months pregnant..he pushed her down and she broke her pelvic bone. On another occasion, he threw a fork and it caught her in the lower lip. That lip could greet you at the door. There were no Welfare Dept., no Social Programs. Where could she go with 11 children? When she ran home to her mama...Granny would send us right back ..telling my mama.."You made that bed...Go sleep in it"...so sad...... I use this mistreatment to balance out my feelings toward her. Maybe she was tired and sacrificed me to keep him off of her. I believe she was in denial.
How did your mother react?
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